Free tool · about 5 minutes
Go through 39 everyday household jobs and mark who usually thinks about each one. You'll see how the invisible work is split, area by area, and get a short plan for sharing it more fairly.
The mental load is the invisible work of running a home: noticing what needs doing, planning it, remembering it, and following up until it's done. Cooking dinner is the task. Deciding what to cook, checking the fridge, and adding what's missing to the list is the mental load.
Answer for the noticing and remembering, not just the doing. If you both pay the bills but only one of you remembers when they're due, choose that person. Skip anything that doesn't apply to your family.
The percentage is the share of jobs in that area that only you keep track of.
These are jobs only you keep track of, in the areas where you carry the most. Pick two or three and hand them over completely: noticing, planning and doing.
Home Run is a family AI assistant. Tell it what needs to happen and it creates the task, list, reminder or event, assigns the right person and follows up.
Understanding it
Most arguments about housework are really about these three, because they are the parts nobody sees.
Seeing that the milk is low, the permission slip is due or the smoke alarm is beeping. Someone has to spot it before anything can happen.
Deciding what to do about it, when, and who should do it: which day to book the dentist, what to cook with what's left, who drives on Thursday.
Remembering to check it happened, and reminding others when it didn't. This is the part that turns into nagging when one person carries it alone.
Using it together
FAQ
The mental load is the invisible work of running a home: noticing what needs doing, planning it, remembering it, and following up until it is done. It is different from the physical task. Cooking dinner is the task; deciding what to cook, checking what is in the fridge, and adding the missing items to the list is the mental load.
Go through each task and choose who usually thinks about it, not just who does it: you, your partner, both of you equally, or nobody because it does not apply. Your results show how the thinking is split overall and in each area of home life, plus a short list of jobs to hand over.
Separately first, then compare. Partners often see the split differently, and the gaps between your two answers are the best starting point for a calm conversation. Copy your results and share them with each other before you talk.
Fair rarely means exactly 50/50. It means a split you both agree on, given work hours, health and the season of life you are in. The goal is that neither of you is the only person keeping track of everything, and that each job has one clear owner from noticing to done.
Hand over whole jobs, not single steps. If one partner takes over school forms, they also notice the emails, remember the deadline and follow up, without being reminded. Write the owners down, review them every few weeks, and use a shared system so nothing lives only in one person's head.
An app cannot care for your family, but it can hold the remembering. Home Run is a family AI assistant: you tell it what needs to happen by voice or chat, and it creates the task, list, reminder or calendar event, assigns the right person, and follows up, so the plan lives in one shared place instead of one person's head.
No. Your answers stay in your own browser on this device so you can come back to them. Nothing is sent to Home Run or anyone else unless you copy your results and share them yourself.
Guides
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iOS and Android
Download Home Run on iPhone or Android. Set up your private family space in minutes and invite the people who help run your home.
